Project Description

As a child, I was exposed to death at an earlier age than most.  Classmates, parents and/or siblings of friends, as well as some of  my own relatives, all passed away long before my high school  graduation.
As an adult, I knew that the passing of my close loved ones would be  difficult. However, due to my work experience in the medical field  and my early introduction to death, I felt I was better prepared than  most.
Nothing could have been farther from the truth.
Although I had helped others wade through the numerous
responsibilities related to the passing of a loved one, I had never  done so while enduring my own personal (and staggering) grief. The  impact that grief had on my ability to handle even the smallest of  details blindsided me. When my dad learned that he only had weeks  to live, circumstances dictated that I was the one who would make  the decisions and choices regarding medical issues, funeral  arrangements, people to contact and so forth. Although necessary,  each one of those decisions made me feel like I had given up  on/betrayed my dad. After all, he was still very much alive and  hanging on to hope, while I was less than a mile away picking out his  coffin.Death carries so many hidden hurts and unexpected difficulties.  Once the word “terminal” has been spoken, friends often begin  avoiding the one who is soon to pass (including their families),  because they have no idea what to say and feel utterly helpless.  They try to find something they can “do” at first (i.e. meals, errands),  but sitting in silence with someone suffering deep grief and fear,  makes them feel awkward. They often find it easier to “give you
some space” but, in reality, that “space” only deepens the trauma.  Most truly want to help… they just don’t know how to do so.
God has placed a calling on my heart to walk with those who are
trying to navigate this difficult and heart breaking path. It ​IS
possible to experience peace and comfort amidst the pain and  bewilderment that is common while passing through the shadow of  this dark valley.

The Hebrew word “Shalom” is most often defined as peace, hello, or  goodbye.​ And those are certainly accurate
definitions. However, the  root meaning of the word “Shalom” means “completeness or  wholeness”. It is this deeper definition of “Shalom” that I strive to  bring to you and your loved ones. To help the one who is passing find rest and a sense of peace knowing that their life had been filled  with value and purpose. And for those left behind, honoring what  has been, then gently helping them step forward into what is still to  come.

A sunset is as beautiful as a sunrise. Both have their allotted time  and place, and neither are in our control. Nevertheless, once we  begin our personal “sunset,” we have the potential to make a lasting  and valuable impact on those we love. A legacy that can change  lives, long after our “sun” has set.

I would consider it an honor to walk with you and your loved ones  through this time of sorrow, hoping, that together, we can create (or  complete) a lasting legacy that will bring much peace and comfort  to all who walk this journey together.

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